does he miss having friends?
I wonder if Dan misses sitting around with people and BS'ing like one does. He only ever did it drinking, so doesn't do it at all. If asked, he will confess to no interest or understanding of the behaviour at all. if invited, he will refuse. If pressed into service, he'll pout about it the whole time. If I were to bring them over, he'd vacate to a hiding place with stress reliever amusements.
So why's he in a snit about me going out last night? He wants to pretend he's not, but acts like he is, ergo, he is. I didn't come home drunk, only lit and certainly quiet and 10:30pm is only late in my diurnal schedule. I woke late, and he hadn't done anything to pick up the slack as you'd expect a spouse when the other had a late night. Poor dogs had to go over 12 hours between bathroom breaks, possibly worse if he hadn't let them out when he got home.
It's not like I go out every week, or even every month, so it's not that I"m never home. I don't see any reason except jealousy over my having the courage to do what he hasn't. That would imply he WANTS it, against all his protestations.
I know that being in the group last night with us would have been very healthy for him. These folks could heal about any heart if they could sneak inside. But Dan is quite good at being resistant.
Perhaps he's been so happy lately because I became so socially isolated? Is he one of those jealous types who can't feel secure if their mate has outside resources?
the only thing I know for sure is it's nothing actually to do with me. He's got a problem he's nursing like a puppy and nothing I can do to show him it's a troll. But if these people come back into my life, maybe they'll show up often enough to slip through his fences like some folks have done. then they could all show up at once and maybe he'd be able to handle a group scene?
But they're busy and popular people, not going to have time to sit in my silly little world idling.
Maybe they'll come eventualy for relaxing, but not so long as my dog is an ankle biter and a barker, sigh. Who could just relax with that going on? All the dog yelling and the tiny one is attacking?
So why's he in a snit about me going out last night? He wants to pretend he's not, but acts like he is, ergo, he is. I didn't come home drunk, only lit and certainly quiet and 10:30pm is only late in my diurnal schedule. I woke late, and he hadn't done anything to pick up the slack as you'd expect a spouse when the other had a late night. Poor dogs had to go over 12 hours between bathroom breaks, possibly worse if he hadn't let them out when he got home.
It's not like I go out every week, or even every month, so it's not that I"m never home. I don't see any reason except jealousy over my having the courage to do what he hasn't. That would imply he WANTS it, against all his protestations.
I know that being in the group last night with us would have been very healthy for him. These folks could heal about any heart if they could sneak inside. But Dan is quite good at being resistant.
Perhaps he's been so happy lately because I became so socially isolated? Is he one of those jealous types who can't feel secure if their mate has outside resources?
the only thing I know for sure is it's nothing actually to do with me. He's got a problem he's nursing like a puppy and nothing I can do to show him it's a troll. But if these people come back into my life, maybe they'll show up often enough to slip through his fences like some folks have done. then they could all show up at once and maybe he'd be able to handle a group scene?
But they're busy and popular people, not going to have time to sit in my silly little world idling.
Maybe they'll come eventualy for relaxing, but not so long as my dog is an ankle biter and a barker, sigh. Who could just relax with that going on? All the dog yelling and the tiny one is attacking?