The next 50 years

There's a movie quote that became a meme.  "I know you think you can do these things and you really want to try, but the fact is, you just can't!"  This from a mother to her child who is "differently abled" and trying to find her abilities. In the meme, it's communicated that this is an instantly horrifying quote. That it shocks people that a mother would say such a thing.  Yet it sounds quite normal to me. Even to this day my family are deciding, before I've had time or practice to get good at something, that I can't do it well enough and I shouldn't be supported in order to drive me away from fruitless endeavour for my own good. Meaning I get no support.  Then they also consider me a quitter.  They say things like "you can't do it.  You don't put the time in and that's why, and you'll never get any good at it because you just don't practice enough."  Even while dropping support for a fruitless endeavour, saying...

I was a disabled child with an invisible disability. Nonetheless I was certainly brought into the support system quite young, at age 8.  Every time I had difficulty with something one or both of my parents would become exasperated and quit on me, leaving me to sort it out myself and then laying shame on me for not doing so. that's how I learned a "can't do" attitude.  When I thought of things I might like to try, they'd vet my choices against some strange preconceived notions of what I should or shouldn't do, not against my proclivities and inabilities, and they'd tell me I can't. countless times I approached people with the dilemma of figuring out what to be when I graduated school and got "you can't" from them.  Then out in the world, still not prepared for adulthood, still not "being something" and people kept telling me my problem was that I had a "can't" attitude and gave up too early.  Still, nobody ever trie...