why girls think they like it
What a weekend. I had to hide my lamp to keep Dan from forcing his idea of a "better fix" on me. Man won't take no for an answer no matter how hard you say it! Doesn't help that my prototype broke either. It just needs a stronger arm but I'm reluctant to reprint with all this nonsense. I'm thinking I may be able to weld on it with the 3d doodler. I got some PLA strands for it so I could first weld the break shut, then make struts across the corner to help hold it. I already put three nails in it but it's not strong enough.
So I was thinking about young women and how they get turned into sex objects. I was thinking about the male POV wherein if she doesn't like it, why would she participate?
See, a girl is raised up with less information about the wider world, if any. She gets it from girlfriends and what media she's able to access. She hasn't got the vocabulary, prerequisite education, literacy, or reasoning skills to access most media. also, her community will discourage her with teasing if she varies from the norm. So mostly she's able to access just silly stuff about how to be a better sex object! The men around her are treating her like that, like her most valuable asset is their lust. If she's typical, she's probably been getting sexually molested if not also raped by a variety of older males from siblings of friends to adults entrusted with her care.
By the time this kid reaches an age where she might be capable of reason she's already been shown that the world is about sex and her place in it is as a sex object.
Another important point driven into her is that there's two ways to be a sex object. You may be a "ho" or a "bitch' and that means either you're free game to the whole "crew" of males, the "ho" or you're only serving one male, and he is usually quite sexy and easy to focus on. So naturally they want the latter. One manageable man is far better than random sexual assault. With a strong man on your side, be it lover or relative who keeps the other men at bay, the woman quickly learns her own helplessness is endemic. In case she dares to "give lip" there's always physical assault to punish her.
This is why wiser people have created laws wherein someone under a certain age is considered unable to protect herself! Sadly, the girls themselves have no idea how brainwashed they are and like a cult victim will fight to protect the status quo. This adds verity and assurance to the men in the community to continue behaviour they shouldn't.
I need to see a dentist but I don't know any. I can't got back to the previous clinic, I'm too shy of them anymore. They had no tolerance for anxiety and finally the general intolerance made it too much for me to overcome with courage. I'm starting to cry just explaining!
So I need to find another dentist but after the last experience, I haven't enough courage, again, to overcome the fear.
All I need is a cleaning but because of it, there's an infection up in the roots in my gum. I think debris works it's way in but because of buildup near the gums on the teeth, it doesn't flush back out properly and the bloodstream takes over with white blood cells and inflammation. This can be deadly, of course, if the bacteria get the upper hand. What's more, it takes a lot of energy and creates a lot of pain. My teeth are aching with a hint of throb and there's a swollen spot on the roof of my mouth. I've been trying to clean the affected teeth at home and hoping my general health will work to my favour. I'm eating more carefully too so I'll have the nutrition I need. What's worse, it' smuch harder to chew raw veggies with half your mouth.
So that's my whine. When our finances pick up, and Dan says they should by March, I may find the courage to book an appt somewhere, if I can find a clinic willing to take me. I'm so tired of trying to ffind people tolerant of anxiety and autism and adhd. It's not easy being me as it is and then they get so mean because of impatience and it just makes me worse. If I can't even write it down in a blog with a typewriter without becoming overwhelmed by it, how do I physically make myself do it? No matter how bad the infection? Until the pain is strong enough to kill all other emotions and give the excuse for my tears, how do I tell anyone? A normal would exaggerate the pain, I suppose, and blame the anxiety tears on pain. But you see, I lose respect for those to whom I lie and I can't stand being in a world where I don't respect anyone. So I avoid lying more thann the usual human. I can lie, and I lie very well when I do, but I really only do it when I think it's the wisest way to solve an issue and really won't come back at me someday. I would usually rather face teh music than lose the respect towards the people around me, even if they'd never find out and disrespect me, even if they already don't hold me in high regard.
So anyway, I wish I had a social worker that came around and helped with stuff like that. But I'm too high functioniong to qualify.
So I was thinking about young women and how they get turned into sex objects. I was thinking about the male POV wherein if she doesn't like it, why would she participate?
See, a girl is raised up with less information about the wider world, if any. She gets it from girlfriends and what media she's able to access. She hasn't got the vocabulary, prerequisite education, literacy, or reasoning skills to access most media. also, her community will discourage her with teasing if she varies from the norm. So mostly she's able to access just silly stuff about how to be a better sex object! The men around her are treating her like that, like her most valuable asset is their lust. If she's typical, she's probably been getting sexually molested if not also raped by a variety of older males from siblings of friends to adults entrusted with her care.
By the time this kid reaches an age where she might be capable of reason she's already been shown that the world is about sex and her place in it is as a sex object.
Another important point driven into her is that there's two ways to be a sex object. You may be a "ho" or a "bitch' and that means either you're free game to the whole "crew" of males, the "ho" or you're only serving one male, and he is usually quite sexy and easy to focus on. So naturally they want the latter. One manageable man is far better than random sexual assault. With a strong man on your side, be it lover or relative who keeps the other men at bay, the woman quickly learns her own helplessness is endemic. In case she dares to "give lip" there's always physical assault to punish her.
This is why wiser people have created laws wherein someone under a certain age is considered unable to protect herself! Sadly, the girls themselves have no idea how brainwashed they are and like a cult victim will fight to protect the status quo. This adds verity and assurance to the men in the community to continue behaviour they shouldn't.
I need to see a dentist but I don't know any. I can't got back to the previous clinic, I'm too shy of them anymore. They had no tolerance for anxiety and finally the general intolerance made it too much for me to overcome with courage. I'm starting to cry just explaining!
So I need to find another dentist but after the last experience, I haven't enough courage, again, to overcome the fear.
All I need is a cleaning but because of it, there's an infection up in the roots in my gum. I think debris works it's way in but because of buildup near the gums on the teeth, it doesn't flush back out properly and the bloodstream takes over with white blood cells and inflammation. This can be deadly, of course, if the bacteria get the upper hand. What's more, it takes a lot of energy and creates a lot of pain. My teeth are aching with a hint of throb and there's a swollen spot on the roof of my mouth. I've been trying to clean the affected teeth at home and hoping my general health will work to my favour. I'm eating more carefully too so I'll have the nutrition I need. What's worse, it' smuch harder to chew raw veggies with half your mouth.
So that's my whine. When our finances pick up, and Dan says they should by March, I may find the courage to book an appt somewhere, if I can find a clinic willing to take me. I'm so tired of trying to ffind people tolerant of anxiety and autism and adhd. It's not easy being me as it is and then they get so mean because of impatience and it just makes me worse. If I can't even write it down in a blog with a typewriter without becoming overwhelmed by it, how do I physically make myself do it? No matter how bad the infection? Until the pain is strong enough to kill all other emotions and give the excuse for my tears, how do I tell anyone? A normal would exaggerate the pain, I suppose, and blame the anxiety tears on pain. But you see, I lose respect for those to whom I lie and I can't stand being in a world where I don't respect anyone. So I avoid lying more thann the usual human. I can lie, and I lie very well when I do, but I really only do it when I think it's the wisest way to solve an issue and really won't come back at me someday. I would usually rather face teh music than lose the respect towards the people around me, even if they'd never find out and disrespect me, even if they already don't hold me in high regard.
So anyway, I wish I had a social worker that came around and helped with stuff like that. But I'm too high functioniong to qualify.