Little trans things
I thought I didn't have dysphoria. Not by the way media paints it, anyway. I never stood in the mirror hating what I saw. I never tried to mutilate my face or anything to make it more masculine.
But see, all these stupid little "silly" things. I say silly because that's how other people described my feelings. I was silly about my genitals, female clothing, being nude, being touched or examined by anyone other than a lover, and so much more I still don't understand.
This was triggered by watching Nikki of Gone with the Wynns pickup a bra off the ground and tie it back in place on a bra fence in New Zealand. My revulsion towards bras came rising up and I realized it was notable. How could she just handled that thing? It's a bra! LOL No, it's a bunch of fabric shaped to fit a woman's breasts, which has been out in the weather for years. But it fills me with disgust! The worst was those "flesh tone beige" undergarments. They looked the very colour of a sweat stain and I'd seen sweat stained versions so that image overlays.
Well, that's where my dysphoria found it's outlet. Underwear. that most feminine of things. The nexus of the gender separation. A woman may don a brooks brothers suit but underneath, she's wearing female undies!
I was too socially conditioned to wear men's things, but I expect I would have liked it even on my female shape if I hadn't had all that conditioning noise in my head about women trying to grasp male power. Make no mistake, that's a huge part of transphobia.
The idea that a privileged male would throw it away, or that a mere female would dare to masquerade and take power not allowed to her, this is the problem with transgender people, you see. They spit in the eye of the patriarchy. They give obvious evidence of the falseness of this flimsy construct based around nature's roles for us. Very few of modern activities relate back to our evolutionary roots that you just can't use that argument. Sure, if you want to plan a two week hunting trip with no camping gear, no washing, you must roll in your prey's manure and sleep rough, well ok, you can select out a few manly men and hang a moniker on them. Likewise, drop a handful of adults into a day care and see who lasts while keeping the place tidy, you can separate them out with a moniker too. But you might notice that "man and woman" won't work because you have both sexes in both groups.
For most other situations in the modern human world, it's better to use temperment than physique to place people, nes c'est pas?