trolls
Am I responsible for my spouse's behaviour? What if I have the power to stymie him? But to do so would be a disrespectful act and abusive thereby.
My spouse is a terrible troll. He's the epitome of horrid troll. Today I caught him being nasty in multiple comments on a good news story about... Koalas. Why? Because the news company in question is being being tagged by the troll overlord for abuse, that's why.
The internet is in my name and he's too scattered to ever go turn it back on. I'd have to lose it myself, but it would knock him back a bit. Only a bit, though, as his phone is a work necessity including the data on it. That's in my name too.
But I am one who governs by "do the right thing" even when it may be a difficult, harsh, or even counter intuitive act. I don't betray certain rules, and without being able to define it, cutting off internet to control his behaviour is not the right solution. Controlling his behaviour is not the right solution. I am an anarchist. I do not control others behaviour. I simply demand of them how they interact with me and those under my care. Beyond that, I cannot dominate. It's against the anarchist rules.
But oh boy do I ever detest his activity. It's antisocial in the extreme and it's the same BS trolling he does here at home.
I cant' make him stop by shaming. I've tried a bit, and besides he truly has no shame anymore. he's an old man with an old man's brain and I need to find some other thing. As with kids and pets it's probably about finding a way to divert him more. He's getting well diverted by his new vehicle but getting him away from the internet? Not really possible in a cooperative way.
I'm going to start saying "quit trolling me" more often when he starts that bs at me. he won't cop to being a troll, even when he's deliberately trolling. He starts with excuses and justifications and defenses and novel definitions and then goes to blame shifting and outright denial. It's pretty frustrating to try and get through to him. I don't think a bat to the side of his head would get through that thick skull. But again, i'm also a pacifist, so violence isn't an option either. Besides which violence is a disrespectful form of coersion, aka, not anarchistic behaviour.
My spouse is a terrible troll. He's the epitome of horrid troll. Today I caught him being nasty in multiple comments on a good news story about... Koalas. Why? Because the news company in question is being being tagged by the troll overlord for abuse, that's why.
The internet is in my name and he's too scattered to ever go turn it back on. I'd have to lose it myself, but it would knock him back a bit. Only a bit, though, as his phone is a work necessity including the data on it. That's in my name too.
But I am one who governs by "do the right thing" even when it may be a difficult, harsh, or even counter intuitive act. I don't betray certain rules, and without being able to define it, cutting off internet to control his behaviour is not the right solution. Controlling his behaviour is not the right solution. I am an anarchist. I do not control others behaviour. I simply demand of them how they interact with me and those under my care. Beyond that, I cannot dominate. It's against the anarchist rules.
But oh boy do I ever detest his activity. It's antisocial in the extreme and it's the same BS trolling he does here at home.
I cant' make him stop by shaming. I've tried a bit, and besides he truly has no shame anymore. he's an old man with an old man's brain and I need to find some other thing. As with kids and pets it's probably about finding a way to divert him more. He's getting well diverted by his new vehicle but getting him away from the internet? Not really possible in a cooperative way.
I'm going to start saying "quit trolling me" more often when he starts that bs at me. he won't cop to being a troll, even when he's deliberately trolling. He starts with excuses and justifications and defenses and novel definitions and then goes to blame shifting and outright denial. It's pretty frustrating to try and get through to him. I don't think a bat to the side of his head would get through that thick skull. But again, i'm also a pacifist, so violence isn't an option either. Besides which violence is a disrespectful form of coersion, aka, not anarchistic behaviour.